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3 Steps On How To Stop Letting Your Weight Define You

So if you’re reading this, there’s a chance that you have or have had an unhealthy relationship with your body image. I’m here to tell you, GIRL ME TOO.

It’s so easy for us to get caught up in how the world views us. For a lot of us, it has gotten to the point where we define who we are based on our physical appearance.

We think “I need to lose weight to find a husband”, “I can’t wear that crop top until I lose 5 more pounds”, “I’m not sexy because I don’t have curves”. We stop doing things we would naturally want to do based on what other people’s opinion of us might be. Let me tell you something. WEIGHT DOES NOT DEFINE YOU. You are not fat. You have fat. And guess what? We all need fat to exist.

This time of the year is generally my least favorite in terms of social media marketing for the “drop 15lbs in just 3 weeks!” schemes. While these programs may provide some instant gratification, it’s not actually fixing anything. In fact, these companies are profiting off of your insecurities.

If any of you know my story, I used to be underweight. I had a BMI of 17. I ate only 800 calories a day, I ran 3 miles daily and went to karate classes 4 days a week. I got to the point where there was genuine concern for my health. I got so jaundiced that people regularly commented on the pigment of my skin. One day, I tried to get out of bed and I genuinely couldn’t do it because I almost fainted from the exhaustion. I cared so much of what people thought of me, that I let it seriously affect my health.

It’s not that extreme for everyone. For some it is more extreme, but waking up that day made me realize that significant changes needed to be made and they needed to be made immediately. I started eating meat again, I stopped counting my calories, and I stopped running. This was 10 years ago. I’ve learned a lot since then and I want to share with you a few things that have changed my life.

I’ve said it before, I will say it always. You are not your body. Your body is a vessel given to you by God to carry out your purpose here on earth. Remind yourself of this daily. Whether you believe in God or not doesn’t matter. You need to understand that you’re purpose goes beyond what you look like.

Okay so now that you understand that. Here are the 3 main steps that helped me overcome the thought that my weight defined who I was.

Step 1: Throw away your scale. This is the most important step. To realize that you are more than your weight, you need to stop the habit of constantly weighing yourself. I don’t care what you weigh or what your goals are, get rid of your scale. There are other ways to know if you’re hitting your goals or not.

Step 2: Workout. Wait. Is that contradictory to my entire post? NO. Part of the reason you have become obsessed with your weight (losing or gaining) is because you are insecure (Captain Obvious here). This insecurity comes from not being able to battle the negative self talk with facts. When you workout 3 times a week for 30mins each day, you have actuals facts to back up how well you’re doing and that you are actively working on whatever your goal is. Oh yeah, and let’s also take a break to discuss your goals really quick. Your goals should not be based on other people and they should not be to fit into what is considered socially acceptable for a bikini. Screw that. Your goals should be to be healthy. That is it.

Step 3: Have an eating plan that includes plenty of healthy foods….but also some junk food. When you find yourself constantly riding the rollercoaster of weight loss versus weight gain, it’s because you’re restricting yourself too much. This restriction causes the never ending cycle that is restricting then binging. Restriction is not sustainable! If you can honestly look me in the eye without blinking and tell me that you will never buy a snickers bar or a bag of Lays chips again, then…..well…YOU’RE LYING TO MY FACE. You’re eating plan should consist of 80% healthy, unprocessed foods and 20% of whatever the hell you want. If you eat 3 meals a day, 7 days a week, that’s 21 meals. That means 17 meals need to be healthy and include plenty of macro and micro nutrients, and 4 of them can be literally anything. My favorite go to? Nachos and/or chicken tenders. I stand by choosing chicken tenders. Yes, I am 27 years old.

I understand these are broad, but I’m willing to go more into detail based on your specific needs. If you want to know what is best to eat and what workouts you should do based on your goals, I can help with that too. Send me a DM on my Instagram, fit.asamother and I’d more than love to answer your questions.

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The Beginning

I’ve talked a lot about what my pregnancy was like so that I could get into how I finally got into working out like it’s my job….and….enjoying it? Such a weird concept still, but hear me out.

I have always been skinny, but not the “good skinny”, you know? Not the fit skinny, the soft skinny. I have always had a great metabolism. If I wanted to lose weight, I would just really make up my mind to be all in on a diet and within two weeks would lose the weight, no big deal. I’ve also always been kind of physically lazy. There was a point in my life where I would run 3 miles a day, but that only lasted about a year before I decided I would rather just….well, do nothing.

So naturally I assumed that losing the baby weight would be similar to how I normally lose weight. Quickly and with minimal effort. It was not. Three weeks postpartum, I was basically screaming at my love handles in the mirror, “YOU DON’T BELONG HERE!”. Looking back, it was really ridiculous. I had just had a baby and gone through the most physically exhausting year of my life and immediately expected the weight to just melt right off. There is a lot to be said about the societal pressures about feeling like you need to lose the weight right away, but for right now, that is not the point I’m trying to make.

Anyway, it was January 2018 at this point and I had decided that I was going to make a New Year’s Resolution and actually keep it…..like everyone says every year, so original I know. I wanted to lose the baby weight. I weighed almost 160lbs, I’m 5’6″, and wanted to get back down to at least my pre-pregnancy weight of 135lbs.

I wasn’t sure how I was going to do it this time because this is the first time I had a significant amount of weight to lose. I am so thankful that at the same time, my sister-in-law had just become a Beachbody coach. She recommended the 21 Day Fix program to me and it.changed.everything.

This program was super easy to follow, was very clear on the type of food you could eat, but I never felt like I was starving myself. In 3 weeks, I lost about 10lbs so I decided to do another 21 days. I lost another 10lbs. I lost the last 5lbs I wanted to lose in one more round and never felt better about myself. It was the first time that I worked out on a regular basis and I LOVED IT. Well….I hated it at first, but when you start seeing results and you get to feel like you really worked hard, it’s 110% worth it. For the record, I am not a Beachbody coach and I am not promoting it in any way except to say that it really helped me decide what to do and how to do it. If anyone is new to working out or just wants to get in a routine, I highly recommend the 21 Day Fix.

The first picture is me at 6 weeks postpartum, the 2nd one is of me now. Neither of them are good pictures….but it gets the job done.

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Now I weigh 132lbs, workout 5 days a week, do intermittent fasting (feel free to ask), and I am in the best shape I’ve ever been in…. and I actually enjoy it. I eat junk when I want to, I drink when I want to – except one thing has changed. My focus is not, and never again will be, to keep losing weight just for the sake of a number on a scale. My goal is to be healthy.

Question for everyone: What are your current fitness goals?