So if you’re reading this, there’s a chance that you have or have had an unhealthy relationship with your body image. I’m here to tell you, GIRL ME TOO.
It’s so easy for us to get caught up in how the world views us. For a lot of us, it has gotten to the point where we define who we are based on our physical appearance.
We think “I need to lose weight to find a husband”, “I can’t wear that crop top until I lose 5 more pounds”, “I’m not sexy because I don’t have curves”. We stop doing things we would naturally want to do based on what other people’s opinion of us might be. Let me tell you something. WEIGHT DOES NOT DEFINE YOU. You are not fat. You have fat. And guess what? We all need fat to exist.
This time of the year is generally my least favorite in terms of social media marketing for the “drop 15lbs in just 3 weeks!” schemes. While these programs may provide some instant gratification, it’s not actually fixing anything. In fact, these companies are profiting off of your insecurities.
If any of you know my story, I used to be underweight. I had a BMI of 17. I ate only 800 calories a day, I ran 3 miles daily and went to karate classes 4 days a week. I got to the point where there was genuine concern for my health. I got so jaundiced that people regularly commented on the pigment of my skin. One day, I tried to get out of bed and I genuinely couldn’t do it because I almost fainted from the exhaustion. I cared so much of what people thought of me, that I let it seriously affect my health.
It’s not that extreme for everyone. For some it is more extreme, but waking up that day made me realize that significant changes needed to be made and they needed to be made immediately. I started eating meat again, I stopped counting my calories, and I stopped running. This was 10 years ago. I’ve learned a lot since then and I want to share with you a few things that have changed my life.
I’ve said it before, I will say it always. You are not your body. Your body is a vessel given to you by God to carry out your purpose here on earth. Remind yourself of this daily. Whether you believe in God or not doesn’t matter. You need to understand that you’re purpose goes beyond what you look like.
Okay so now that you understand that. Here are the 3 main steps that helped me overcome the thought that my weight defined who I was.
Step 1: Throw away your scale. This is the most important step. To realize that you are more than your weight, you need to stop the habit of constantly weighing yourself. I don’t care what you weigh or what your goals are, get rid of your scale. There are other ways to know if you’re hitting your goals or not.
Step 2: Workout. Wait. Is that contradictory to my entire post? NO. Part of the reason you have become obsessed with your weight (losing or gaining) is because you are insecure (Captain Obvious here). This insecurity comes from not being able to battle the negative self talk with facts. When you workout 3 times a week for 30mins each day, you have actuals facts to back up how well you’re doing and that you are actively working on whatever your goal is. Oh yeah, and let’s also take a break to discuss your goals really quick. Your goals should not be based on other people and they should not be to fit into what is considered socially acceptable for a bikini. Screw that. Your goals should be to be healthy. That is it.
Step 3: Have an eating plan that includes plenty of healthy foods….but also some junk food. When you find yourself constantly riding the rollercoaster of weight loss versus weight gain, it’s because you’re restricting yourself too much. This restriction causes the never ending cycle that is restricting then binging. Restriction is not sustainable! If you can honestly look me in the eye without blinking and tell me that you will never buy a snickers bar or a bag of Lays chips again, then…..well…YOU’RE LYING TO MY FACE. You’re eating plan should consist of 80% healthy, unprocessed foods and 20% of whatever the hell you want. If you eat 3 meals a day, 7 days a week, that’s 21 meals. That means 17 meals need to be healthy and include plenty of macro and micro nutrients, and 4 of them can be literally anything. My favorite go to? Nachos and/or chicken tenders. I stand by choosing chicken tenders. Yes, I am 27 years old.
I understand these are broad, but I’m willing to go more into detail based on your specific needs. If you want to know what is best to eat and what workouts you should do based on your goals, I can help with that too. Send me a DM on my Instagram, fit.asamother and I’d more than love to answer your questions.